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Trapped in the Mirror

Trapped in the MirrorAuthor: Elan Golomb
Publisher: Harper Paperbacks
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ISBN: 0688140718
Dewey Decimal Number: 616.8585
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Publication Date: March 28, 1995
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In this compelling book, Elan Golomb identifies the crux of the emotional and psychological problems of millions of adults. Simply put, the children of narcissist -- offspring of parents whose interest always towered above the most basic needs of their sons and daughters -- share a common belief: They believe they do not have the right to exist.

The difficulties experienced by adult children of narcissists can manifest themselves in many ways: for examples, physical self-loathing that takes form of overeating, anorexia, or bulimia; a self-destructive streak that causes poor job performance and rocky personal relationships; or a struggle with the self that is perpetuated in the adult's interaction with his or her own children. These dilemmas are both common and correctable, Dr. Golomb tells us.

With an empathic blend of scholarship and case studies, along with her own personal narrative of her fight for self, Dr. Golomb plumbs the depths of this problem, revealing its mysterious hold on the affairs of otherwise bright, aware, motivated, and worthy people. Trapped in the Mirror explores.

  • the nature of the paralysis and lack of motivation so many adults feel
  • stress and its role in exacerbating childhood wrongs
  • why do many of our relationships seem to be "reruns" of the past
  • how one's body image can be formed by faulty parenting
  • how anger must be acknowledge to be overcome
  • and, most important, how even the most traumatized self can be healed.
    • Rooted in a profoundly humanist traditional approach, and suffused with the benefit of the latest knowledge about intrafamily relationships, Trapped in the Mirror offers more than the average self-help book; it is truly the first self-heal book for millions.



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    5 out of 5 stars Shatter the mirror and set yourself free!   October 26, 2009
    Suzanne M. Clements (AZ)
    This is a wonderful book, a bit hard to read in parts, but worth it!
    If you are a child of a narcissist this is a must read.
    Wonderful example of various different peoples experiences, great tools and examples of how to find one self.



    5 out of 5 stars Untrap yourself   August 28, 2009
    cynthy9 (evanston, illinois)
    1 out of 1 found this review helpful

    This is a powerful book! It sheds light in the dark corners and opens the mind to ideas which, by the nature of
    being trapped by a narcissistic parent, one does not naturally see. It was so real for me, I had to read it in small chunks in order to digest and release the old hurts. Elan speaks from experience which only give more credence to the message. Brilliant!


    1 out of 5 stars Waste of money and time.   April 8, 2009
    V. Attinger (CA, USA)
    0 out of 1 found this review helpful

    The introduction was godd but that's about it. The rest of the book is about a series of examples and that's all. No real analysis, explanation or substance.



    5 out of 5 stars Worth reading...and re-reading   February 27, 2009
    R. Hoffman (Denver, CO United States)
    1 out of 2 found this review helpful

    I have read this book several times, each time gaining a deeper insight and understanding about my past, and present, relationships. I have recommended it many times. I encourage anyone who grew up in a situation where there was no outright abuse, but is now left with a lingering feeling of not being good enough, feeling "unexplained anger," difficulty picking loving partners, READ THIS BOOK!
    The only point that still bugs me is a section where Golomb shares about a client and her persona "Kali." The client's interpretation of this revered yogic deity was misguided, and I wanted Golomb to include an accurate description of this goddess and her symbolism. Kali is possibly the most misunderstood deity, often interpreted as evil and cruel, when, in fact, her destructive force is an act of benevolence. She represents fearlessness. She destroys to liberate. She is the darkness of the womb from which emerges light and life.
    Perhaps my protectiveness of Kali's image has some tie to my own long-time feelings of being misunderstood.
    I just wanted to set the record straight. For Kali and for myself.


    4 out of 5 stars Narcissism Dissected   December 28, 2008
    Sunny Everson (Boston, MA)
    2 out of 2 found this review helpful

    As the daughter of a narcissistic mother, I knew that I've been beaten down, but the nuances Golomb shared have given me such clarity. If you are the child of a narcissistic parent; in a narcissistic relationship,and have issues without really understanding why you have those particular issues, this book can be of help. Don't swallow it hook, line, and sinker; but do read and absorb the parts that relate to you. Be prepared to not want to see the most glaring offender. I wanted to distance myself from my mother for a minute just so I could calm down and gain some perspective. This thing is generational and is such a horrid legacy. Please heed the sections about the narcissist's blind spots because if you believe that you will be able to make them see what they have been/are doing to you, you will be sorely disappointed. I am sixty years old and have just begun to be my own person within the past couple of years with the help of an excellent psychotherapist, who recommended this book to me. Peace and Joy!

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